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Sex chat rooms can be found just about anywhere. Some sex chat rooms are used for *very* casual "hooking up" in real life. Most, however, tend to cater to chatters in search of cybersex and role-playing chats. If cybersex is what you're looking for, you'll have no trouble finding it online. There can be much more to it than is implied by the inevitable jokes about typing with one hand. With cybersex, you have a level of control over the experience that, with a little imagination, allows you to experience people and places and activities you may never experience in the real world. Cybersex can be one big imaginary playroom online.
Marriage can be summarized like this. Spending all of your free time with the same person for the rest of your life. Having sex with the same person for the rest of your life. Growing old, fat and unattractive together. No wonder some married people are looking for an outlet. Some people have affairs, but others have found a remedy that keeps their marriages together while still letting them fool around on a side a bit. The people call themselves "Married, but flirting" and spend some of their free time having fun, flirtatious conversations online. Flirting online has a lot of advantages over the real world flirting, if you want to stay safe and keep your marriage together. People don't know who you are, you are free from the shackles of physical appearance and you won't pick up some nasty STD. Before you start flirting online, however, make sure it is okay with your spouse. Living in such close quarters you are bound to get caught at one point and sneaking around is never good for a relationship. Better to be honest from the beginning and get permission to be married, but flirting. That way you won't have to constantly look over your shoulder and jump off your chair every time you hear the steps.
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Role-playing games are extremely popular online. BDSM chats(Bondage/Domination/Sadism/Masochism), D/s (Dominant/submissive) groups abound, with members not only playing the roles, but often using specific chat technology to extend the experience. For example, in chat rooms with avatars, chatters in a dominant role usually wear large, or mega avatars, sit at the top of the chat room, and sign in with names in upper case. Submissives in the same chat room would wear smaller avatars, sit at the bottom of the room, and sign in with names in lower case. Other popular role-playing games include SCA (Society for Creative Achronisms) type role playing, vampire families, and wolf families. Gor chats and gorean roleplay is also very popular. This world of Gor is based on a series of science fiction books by John Norman, and the roles involved include masters and slaves. The rules of behavior in these groups vary from group to group and chat room to chat room, but in general tend to be very strict.
Is cybersex cheating? It's a question that has been plaguing philosophers for centuries. Cybersex has been around forever in the form of letters. Later phones and television entered the picture. Even peepshows are a very low-tech form of cybersex. The real question is whether or not having an intimate relationship with someone outside the agreed-upon structure of a relationship is cheating. For that reason, there really is no definitive answer to whether or not cybersex or adult chats constitutes cheating. Everyone defines it differently, and everyone reacts to it differently. Discuss specifically what's ok and what's not ok with your partner before you dive in. The one thing many people *can* agree on regarding cybersex and cheating, is that what's starts as a friendly encounter online can very definitely hurt another relationship if it's driven by sneakiness.
|Jennifer Mathes, Ph.D.|